More on Extended Orgasm & Its Great Pleasures

Being fully aware of your body is an interesting and very different experience to the one that you carry around with you in everyday life.

The heightened sensitivity of your partner’s touch can magnify the sensations contributing to your sexual arousal a hundred fold; most people whose sensory input has been awakened express astonishment at how the simple act of getting back in touch with their bodies has increased their capacity to enjoy sexual pleasure in general and orgasm in particular.

It’s not hard to understand why this happens: orgasmic pleasure begins in the body.

While you might have always believed that sexual arousal is the product of your mind, the reality is rather different — both sexual arousal and your progress towards orgasm depend on you being physically aroused, that is to say, being aroused in your body.

While it’s true that sexual arousal appears to start in the mind with perhaps fantasy or a sudden lustful thought, causing a spontaneous erection in men, or lubrication in women, that kind of arousal will not take you towards orgasm on its own.

Your body has to be aroused as well before you can move towards orgasm. The clearest example of this is men who have a condition known as delayed ejaculation, in which they cannot reach orgasm and ejaculate, no matter how long they thrust in their partner’s vagina.

Anybody looking at that situation would think these men were incredibly aroused, with their rock hard erections that last hours, yet these men cannot ejaculate because they are not sufficiently sexually aroused to reach the point of orgasmic release.

So here you have the first step on the path towards giving your partner the ultimate in sexual pleasure: a program of touching their body in the right way that increases their arousal far beyond the level that it usually reaches — and keeps it there! In this way orgasms can be extended, for both men and women, into minutes or even hours.

The sexual energy flow involved in the state of extended orgasm is so powerful that it flows through the whole body: people report a sensation of whole-body orgasm that feels like a team glowing wave of electricity passing delightfully and sensuously through their entire body.

And men and women can be brought into the final massive orgasmic peak — which remain includes extended orgasm and ejaculation — at any stage of this process.

Expanded orgasm and expanded pleasure

In some ways, though, we’re jumping ahead too quickly by talking about the orgasmic experience itself. There are some prerequisites that are necessary for every man and woman to be able to achieve this state of ecstasy.

And very high on this list is self-acceptance: that is to say, self-acceptance of one’s current sexual performance, of the progress – either rapid or slow – that one makes as one moves towards mind-blowing, extended orgasm.

Equally important is having a trusting, open relationship with your partner, a relationship in which communication is clear and direct. For men in particular it can be a problem to move into this new way of providing pleasure for their partners.

Almost all men are delighted to take a woman to orgasm, but sometimes they may not see the value of an extended orgasm.

Here, perhaps their female partners can help them — women are sometimes much more adventurous in the pursuit of sexual pleasure such as female ejaculation – than men are!

If you’re having doubts about working towards extended orgasm then perhaps all you need to do is to take the program one step at a time: see what each step of the program does for you and if you like the results move onwards; if you don’t like the results, then try something different.

Above all, avoid this becoming another performance test, for an absolute certainty is that if you come to view the achievement of extended orgasm as a measure of your sexual success, you will introduce into your sexual games a number of emotional states which are practically guaranteed to inhibit your success: tension, performance anxiety, and potentially conflict with your partner.