How To Please A Woman In Bed:
What Every Man Needs To Know!
When men have their orgasm, they often lose interest in sex and aren’t in the mood for further sexual activity. In fact, as you’ll know if you’re a man, you may well want to roll onto your side of the bed and go to sleep.
So where does that leave the woman if she hasn’t had an orgasm? The answer is pretty obvious: unsatisfied and unfulfilled!
A much more pleasing approach to lovemaking is to make sure you know how to satisfy your woman, so she can reach orgasm one or more times before you enjoy your own orgasm.
If you’re not sold on that idea yet, think about this: did you know you can have a more powerful and satisfying orgasm if you delay your orgasm? Yes, it’s true.
So what works for BOTH partners is for men to postpone their orgasm.
And also, a man’s sexual excitement is closely linked to how turned on his female partner is. Lovemaking is only going to be so-so for him if she isn’t aroused. In fact, the more aroused she is, the more rewarding sex is for him.
So men, taking time to make sure your female partner is aroused is a great idea.
Satisfying A Woman Is An Art, Not A Science!
Men: when you’re very turned-on by your woman’s responses, you will come much more powerfully than you would with “average” sex.
But here’s the thing – it takes time to arouse most women… much longer than it does to arouse a man. Ten or twenty times longer, usually, in fact.
If you stop to think about it, you’ll probably remember your best sexual experiences with your woman were the ones where she was not just “aroused”, but massively turned-on.
So in some ways, your woman does have the power to control the extent of your pleasure. Even so, you need to know how you can best please her in bed so she is fulfilled and happy – in the bedroom and out of it!
A Woman Controls The Limits Of Her Man’s Sexual Pleasure
Are you shaking your head in disbelief? Can a woman really have that much power?
Reflect for a moment on those occasions when you found that your erection had disappeared. Or when you couldn’t get one in the first place. Or when you were not very turned on. Or when sex felt like a let-down. Your partner was probably either not very interested in sex, or just doing it to keep you happy.
When a woman really wants to be pleasured, and is fully into what’s happening, her increasing sexual energy can really move you both in the same direction.
That’s a positive feedback cycle that constantly increases your arousal, her arousal, her pleasure, and your pleasure.
For example, you may have had a time when you felt her energy making you more excited. You may even have felt you were going to climax without your penis being stimulated in any way at all.
If you’re perfectly in tune, you can climax like this at the same time as your partner even when you’re not inside her, and even if you’re not stimulating yourself.
There’s another aspect to all this, as well: when you have a woman who’s satisfied, pleased to be with you, and sexually fulfilled, you’re going to have a much higher quality of life in general.
Satisfaction In Bed Is Essential For Both Of You!
If you focus only on YOUR needs, you will likely get average sex – or very little sex. If you focus on what SHE wants, you will probably have a much better time and get greater satisfaction and fulfilment.
Bottom line: if she gets all that she wants and needs, you’re both going to have great sex! In truth, knowing how to please a woman in bed is part of a man’s role in keeping a relationship alive.
Pleasing A Woman In Bed Can Be Very Simple!
There are plenty of ways of pleasuring a woman. They don’t all depend on being a powerful, long-lasting lover who can thrust for ages in a woman’s vagina before she reaches a massive orgasm!
Indeed, it would be foolish to think this is a great plan for a man, because very few women can reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse.
Estimates vary, but probably no more than 15% of women reach orgasm during intercourse due to stimulation of the vagina by the man’s penis alone.
One way round this is to take the obvious step of giving your wife or girlfriend an orgasm before intercourse begins.
From your point of view this might not sound like a great idea, because we men think of intercourse as the main event.
But it’s important to understand that this really is a men’s viewpoint. Women tend have a very different view of these matters.
For a woman, sex can be a lot more about connection, intimacy, caressing, kissing, and cuddling than it is for a man. Sure, penetration can be a wonderful affirmation of her femininity. But it may not be the be-all and end-all of sexual connection for a woman.
Indeed, few women could reasonably expect that penetration and intercourse is the route to their orgasm. They know this is not how their bodies work. Even if they can come from vaginal intercourse alone, it usually takes a long time. Few men will have the stamina needed to make love for long enough to bring them to orgasm.
A good way to get around this disparity between the sexes is for you, the man, to pleasure your lover with oral sex before you even begin to contemplate intercourse.
This also allows you to take your pleasure from intercourse after she has reached orgasm.
Remember, women’s arousal decreases much more slowly than men’s after orgasm.
As you know, men often seem to think that their ejaculation is the end of sex. But it’s quite likely that a woman will be willing and ready for more sexual intimacy with you after she has enjoyed an orgasm. And if so, her warm, wet, swollen and aroused vagina will greatly enhance your pleasure when you enter her.
All in all, this is a wonderful way of satisfying your need for sexual release and her desire to be pleasured in bed.
You came here looking for information about how to pleasure a woman? Well, this approach to intercourse is one of the most successful ways of ensuring that pleasure is shared. Both you and your partner will be sexually satisfied, too.
With best wishes,
Rod Phillips
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