How To Give Her The Sex She Wants!
Pleasing a woman means taking time to ensure she gets what she needs. That starts with slow gentle arousal, and stimulation at a pace that’s right for her. Then she needs an increasing pace of sexual stimulation. This will take her on a sensuous journey all the way through to her orgasm, and then into the recovery stage of her sexual response cycle.
Your Body During Sex
No matter how good you are at the mechanics of sex, it will count for nothing if the woman you’re with isn’t receptive to you. To be fully turned on, she has to trust and respect you.
No matter how much she likes sex, she’s going to need to know that you want to make love to her, that she’s special. And she must know that pleasing her is important to you.
So bear in mind the following simple fact: if you have a lot of foreplay with her, when you move on to sexual intercourse with her, it will be much more enjoyable for you both.
In fact, here’s one of the most important facts you will ever learn as a man: to have really good sex you must share extensive foreplay which really arouses her.
Yes, the more foreplay you enjoy with her, the more she’ll enjoy sex, the more enthusiastic she’ll be, and the more fun you’ll have! And she will certainly be pleased with the effort you’ve made to satisfy her in bed.
What you need to remember is this: to ensure a woman is ready for sexual intercourse, she needs ten to twenty times as much foreplay as you do.
Now, that can be a problem for many men (and their partners), because sexual response in many men is much quicker than in women. A man can get an erection after two minutes, insert and ejaculate within another two. But most women need around twenty to thirty minutes’ foreplay before they are ready to achieve orgasm.
How is this major difference between male and female sexual arousal to be resolved? The answer can only lie in you, as a man, knowing how to please your woman, tempering your sexual responses, and paying more attention to your woman’s needs.
But Why Foreplay?
To start with, it ensures a woman is ready for sex both physically and emotionally. It also reinforces the bond between you, provides greater intimacy within your relationship, and relaxes you. That way, when you move on to penetrative sex, oral sex, or mutual masturbation, your woman is much more likely to have an orgasm. By the way, you’re much more likely to have a very enjoyable experience with her, as well
Just what is foreplay? Is it the best way to please a woman?
Even if you haven’t been in a situation yet where you’ve been tempted to just “take” a woman sexually, to push into her, to take your pleasure regardless of her wishes and desires, there’s likely to be a time in your life where this happens.
Suppose you’re incredibly turned on, you’re with a woman who really excites you, you’ve been talking, you’ve kissed, maybe you’ve even undressed and you’re naked together, you have a hard erection, and judging by her responses she seems to be just as excited as you are. What next?
Well, let’s suppose for a moment that at this point your desire overtakes you and, lying on top of her, while kissing her passionately, your penis magically finds its way into her body and you begin to “make love” (i.e. fuck her). It’s a feeling like no other: it’s the ultimate male sexual pleasure, to have a willing woman, to dominate her, to take her, to reach climax and ejaculate deep inside her.
It’s exciting, it’s pleasurable, and it’s incredibly fulfilling for you as a man. However….. what of the woman’s feelings? Sure, if she was really aroused, at the height of her desire, she too may have experienced your penetration as a very enjoyable experience.
Would it surprise you if, after you’ve ejaculated, and you’re lying back, relaxed, her attitude turns cold on you? You’re feeling very satisfied from having sex; she seems to be pissed off. What went wrong?
The obvious answer is that you didn’t actually know what she wanted, you didn’t know how to please her in bed, and most of all, she didn’t come.
Start with this fact: a woman usually needs 20 minutes of foreplay (at least!) before she’s aroused enough to want penetration. Then move on to this fact: most men come quite quickly after penetration, while most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
The fact is, the best sex for both of you will only be achieved when you: arouse her, give her an orgasm through oral sex or masturbation, and then share the joys of sexual intercourse with her.
Importance of Foreplay
You’ll want to do this, even though you get an erection and you’re ready to go long before she is. It just isn’t the same for her. So if you still needs more support around this, here are 14 foreplay tips to please your woman.
And if you need ideas right now, then talking to her, establishing a connection, enjoying gentle physical connection, kissing, and sensuous touch are the keys to getting her warmed up, getting her juices flowing, and getting her in the mood to enjoy intercourse.
You can think of this as a process with two stages: the first stage is you talk to her, so that your minds get to know each other. The next stage is that you kiss, touch, caress and cuddle, so that your bodies get to know each other. And then, when she feels a connection with you, and her body has been aroused by the right kind of stimulation, she will finally be ready for sexual intercourse.
How Do You Shape Up As A Lover?
To know how when a woman is ready for sex is an essential part of being a man. It’s also an essential part of knowing how to please a woman in bed.
It takes a savvy kind of guy to know how to please a woman sexually, to bring her to orgasm, to give her a great time in bed. You can see a great online guide to female orgasm in the right hand column of this page.
Now, what a woman’s never going to tell you is that she expects you to know this.
It’s easy to assume that if a woman does have intercourse with you, she wanted it and she was ready for it. So if she seems grumpy or displeased afterwards, you’ll probably wonder why. The truth is that she probably did it just to please you. You don’t want that kind of sex.
Start With Good Foreplay
If you’re going to enjoy good foreplay, you need to see it as a way of enjoying yourself with your partner, and arousing her at the same time. You don’t want to see it as a tedious task that you “must” do before you get the reward for doing it (access to her body).
And of course good foreplay begins well outside the bedroom. You could even say it begins the moment you decide you want to go to bed with someone: from that moment on your actions will be aimed at achieving that outcome. Part of foreplay is the words you use, before and during physical intimacy: words are also a vital part of foreplay.
As you know, your words can turn your partner on: what you say to her can make her melt emotionally, and make her body lubricate in readiness for intimate lovemaking with you.
Words like: “You’re so beautiful, so sexy, so desirable” help her feel her sexual energy. So do words like “I love being with you, your beautiful body makes me feel so excited”. And “You feel so good” and “I love to hold you and kiss you”. And “I love the scent of your body and the taste of your secret special places”…and so on.
Knowing how to please a woman is part of being a man. You want to hear your woman say how desirable you are, and how much she would like to feel you inside her. Your woman wants to hear your compliments, your expression of how you feel towards her, and personal words that show your appreciation and affection for her.
I’m talking about learning how to be a man who clearly and directly says what he feels from his heart: if you don’t know how to do that now, the following website will help you turn your words into romantic messages that go straight to your lover’s heart.
It follows therefore, that something like “I love being intimate with you” goes down a heck of a lot better than “I’d really like to f**k you.” At least, that is, in the initial stages of your interaction. There’s nothing wrong with hot, horny talk when you’re both extremely aroused and in the midst of passion.
But even then, be sensitive.
Don’t go plunging in until you sure that she’s going to respond by being turned on, or that it excites her as well as you. You might even want to discuss the matter before you get into bed, when your feelings of arousal are not distorting your judgment. And if you want her to talk dirty to you, simply tell how much it arouses you. Again, this is all about knowing how to please a woman.