Knowing how to pleasure a woman is a mixture of being a sensitive man and a skilful lover, combined with understanding what a woman needs to satisfy her sexually.
Of course, if you’re actually going to pleasure a woman successfully, then you’re going to need to know about things to try in bed, things women want in bed, and you going to need to know what girls need to satisfy them.
So this article is all about teaching you these things – by the time you’ve finished, you’ll be fully equipped and know how to please a woman in bed, and at the same time get great pleasure yourself.
So off we go.
Our first source of information is an article from Cosmopolitan, which claims to tell us….
The top 10 things women want from men (sexually)
Sounds interesting! And here they are in increasing order (so it seems) of sexiness….
The tenth most important thing apparently is that women want is for men to pay more attention to their breasts.
You would have thought that most men head straight for a woman’s breasts, and so women might perhaps want men to pay less attention to their breasts!
However it turns out that what we men are doing is not what women really want. The right way to stimulate her breast is to pay more attention to all of her breast rather than just her nipple.
Cup your hand around the breast and lift it, or press on her nipple with whole area of the palm of your hand – and when you move on to licking a woman’s breasts, you need to gently lick around the nipple before covering it with your mouth and sucking gently.
Oh. I see.
By the way, it’s the milk duct behind the nipple that is actually most sensitive – that means to give real pleasure by breast play you might want to apply a little bit more force to the nipple and the area of the breast tissue around it.
Apparently that’s one of the best ways for a man who wants to know how to pleasure a woman sexually to achieve that goal. (Surely orgasm is more pleasurable for a woman than breast sucking?)
Assuming she’s not squealing with pain, we can move onto the next thing Cosmopolitan claims 1000 of their wonderful readers voted number nine in their top 10 tips about how to fulfill a woman with your sexual skills.
Stimulate Her G Spot For Additional Pleasure
AHA! The famous G spot – apparently women want G spot orgasms.
No surprise there, I guess, because if you’ve ever given a woman a G spot orgasm you’ll know it seems to be a lot more powerful than the common-or-garden clitoral type.
Sad to say, a lot of experts say that clitoral and G spot orgasms are one and the same thing, and that when you put your finger inside the vagina and finger a woman, all you’re doing is stimulating the lobes or legs of her clitoris from the inside of the vagina.
To which I respond – heck, does it matter! If you know how to please a woman with fingering, then what’s the problem?
Well, the problem might be that you’re doing it with your finger – or two fingers – rather than with your penis, whereas what she actually wants in bed is to feel your erect penis inside her vagina, massaging her G spot. And that’s more of a challenge for most men who want to know how to sexually pleasure a woman. Because….
…well, bluntly, most men come so quickly when a woman starts to get really aroused that they don’t stand much chance of bringing her off, or even giving her a lengthy period of stimulation on the G spot, with their cock.
So what are you going to do about it? Do the only thing you can do, find the thing that your woman likes most in bed, or the thing that will give your girlfriend or wife most pleasure.
How are you going to establish that? Talk to her about what she wants you to do to her in bed, what will satisfy her most. Simple.
By the way, if you don’t want to do that (talking to her), you could find out how to please your woman by using the right sex position – the one that’s going to stimulate her G spot.
And apparently this is a modified doggy style position – so she lowers herself with her ass in the air, you hold her hips and you thrust into her – as you might imagine, this can make your erection rub up against the front wall of her vagina, thus stimulating her G spot.
Pleasuring Her With A Quickie
Still with us? Great, because apparently if you want to know how to please a woman in bed, the next best way is to surprise her with a quickie.
You mean you didn’t know that? You’ve tried it before and she didn’t like it very much? Well, you don’t want to get slapped in the face here – so don’t jump on her as soon as she walks through the door, tired from the day’s work.
Use your expertise and judgment to know if what you’re going to do is about to please her or make her angry – and then when you’ve decided, don’t totally undress her, simply lift up her skirt and pull down her panties, reach around to massage her clitoris and whisper sweet nothings into her ear.
Good luck. You might need it.
Anyway pressing on, Cosmo says that those men who wish to know how to really please a woman must know how to…
Gently Pull Her Hair.
(No, seriously, this article was published in Cosmopolitan, so it must be true.)
According to Cosmopolitan, there are thousands of nerves in any girl’s scalp, and when she’s aroused they are more sensitive – which means if you pull her hair, she may find it stimulating.
They then make the point that you mustn’t do it during sex from behind – if you do this, apparently she might feel “used”. Come again?
Well, what they’re saying in the magazine is this: when she’s on top (missionary position), run your hand through her hair, grab a handful of hair near her scalp and give it a tug.
I don’t really get that myself, so let’s move on to number six in the fine art of pleasing women according to Cosmopolitan magazine.
Well, guess what this one is?
Talk dirty to her.
Well, well. The claim here is that women are verbal creatures and love to be spoken to in a dirty “rude” way during sex. Well, you know a lot of rude words, you’re a man, so I’m going to leave you to try this one for yourself – the advice being that if you want to really please a woman let her hear the burning lust in your voice as you talk dirty. Apparently it will turn her thighs into liquid with desire. Good. That’ll please her, I’m sure.
And onto number five in this panoply of techniques designed solely with one aim in mind – knowing how to please a girl.
You’ll love this one: nibble on her neck. Thinking it’s a bit corny? Yes, so do I, but let’s see what Cosmopolitan have to say.
Apparently women are going to be absolutely delighted if you start using your tongue to lick from their ear down to where her neck and shoulders meet.
Let’s hope you’re doing it in a warm room so the evaporation of your saliva doesn’t leave her cold. …… Uh, hang on a minute, apparently you ARE going to blow along the trail of saliva you just left – that way, the warmth of your tongue “will couple with the coolness of your breath, shooting tingles all over her body.”
Yeah sure, and if she doesn’t slap you in the face, then you can apparently get a bit more vigorous and nip the bottom of her neck between your teeth.
I’m not really trusting this information, I have to say – I don’t think my wife would be very pleased with most of these.
So do they get better as we go on? Let’s see what number four is.
I know this looks like a real crowd pleaser: know how to pleasure her to orgasm with oral stimulation.
Yes, I can agree with that, as I haven’t met a woman yet who didn’t like being licked until she came. In fact I’d say this was the epitome of techniques for a man pleasuring woman – oral sex is one of the things women love in bed, and it probably is the best way to pleasure a girl. (Which means bring her to orgasm.)
I’m sure you know quite about oral sex already , so no more from me here.
I’m going to move on to number three, which is also a good one.
Give her clit some pleasurable attention
If you’re making love to woman, you’re very well aware that your penis isn’t going to touch her clitoris – so you need to bring your finger(s) into play and fiddle with her clitoris to make her come during lovemaking.
And that’s really going to satisfy your girl in bed (well, it’s going to please every woman you get into bed). That and oral – just what every woman wants in bed, I’d say.
Hah! You know what, number two is pretty good as well:
Kiss her during sex
Apparently most guys stop kissing their woman during intercourse. And that’s a bad move, because women like intimacy, it makes them feel satisfied and happy and fulfilled….
…. so what she wants you to do is pick a position which allows you to make love to her face-to-face so you can kiss her.
As far as I know that means missionary and sitting sex where you are face-to-face – or side-by-side I guess.
Go for deep, slow, romantic kisses. I can buy into that. Sounds like a recipe for pleasing a girl. And especially so if you combine it with the previous move (fingering her clit) – then you’re going to be able to please her with your fingers, please with your words, please her with your tongue, and satisfy her sexually at the same time.
And what’s the top of our Cosmo readers’ wants in bed? Believe it or not, it’s for the man to more aggressive. In a nice way, of course. So there you are – now you know how to please a woman in bed. Go out, my son, and enjoy!