How To Achieve Sexual Pleasure During  Sex Or Masturbation

Sharing With Your Partner

Whether or not you’ve learned how to give a girl pleasure and sexual satisfaction, whether or not you know how to pleasure her (give her an orgasm), now’s the time to share her experiences and find out what she really wants in bed!

And if you haven’t shared self pleasuring (masturbation) to orgasm with a girl yet, maybe that will happen with your partner, which can be very exciting and rewarding for you both.

The idea here is that you teach each other what kinds of stimulation make you feel good so that you know how to please each other even more successfully.

For Women – Showing Your Man How To Pleasure You

Whether or not you’ve learned how to achieve pleasure and sexual satisfaction, whether or not your partner knows how to pleasure you (give you an orgasm), now’s the time to share your experiences with your partner and tell him what you want in bed.

And if you haven’t had an orgasm yet, maybe that will happen with your partner, which can be very exciting and rewarding for you both.

The idea here is that you teach your partner what kinds of stimulation make you feel good so that he knows how to please his girl even more successfully.

Pleasing A Girl In Bed

The way it works is that you start by telling your partner what produces the best sensations for you when you masturbate, what gives you pleasure, what makes you feel good and leads to your satisfaction; and then, when you have shared this information with him, you can show him how you enjoy self-pleasuring.

This way a man can learn best and quickest what gives you pleasure, and so he will then know how to pleasure a woman – which means give you an orgasm!

So you need to think how you will feel when you masturbate in front of your partner. This can be a big step, perhaps rather embarrassing, maybe a bit shaming, certainly somewhat anxiety-making, possibly causing you to wonder what he will think of your behavior, what he will think of you, even!

You may even find it difficult to cope with his response to your burgeoning sexuality.

This is especially true if he is easily aroused, and has an orgasm easily when he masturbates (as he is likely to do – simply because most men do!).

That’s a big difference to your sexual responses as they are at the moment. How will that make you feel?

So the most vital aspect of this process is clear and direct communication. Almost as important is mutual support.

You should begin your conversation about this subject at a time when you are both free from pressure, feeling relaxed, and have enough time to give the matter the attention it deserves.

The natural starting point for this conversation is the expression of any anxiety you may have around being so open in front of each other.

How will you feel when you masturbate in front of your partner? Will you be able to reach orgasm in front of your boyfriend? Pleased to be sexual, happy to be fulfilled, knowing what each of you most likes and wants to enjoy in bed.

How do you imagine your partner will feel? Pleased? Happy? Satisfied with what you’re doing? Express these feelings to each other and check out the accuracy of your judgments – particularly around your partner’s feelings.

You can’t really know how he is going to feel unless you ask him. The same is true in reverse, of course. Be as open in your communication as you possibly can.

It’s also helpful to talk about how you see masturbation. Of course you already have some kind of sexual relationship – satisfactory or not – with your partner, and masturbation may or may not form some part of that relationship.

In either case, you need to discuss the possible consequences of sharing your masturbation experience, and also tell each other what you hope for (e.g. greater openness, greater ability to please each other, greater enjoyment of sex) and what you fear (e.g. anxiety, not being able to reach orgasm, partner’s disgust, and so on).

And of course, don’t forget to discuss what you think the purpose of masturbation might be (e.g. something to be done when partners have different sex drives, a necessary and healthy expression of each other’s sexuality, a way of one partner getting sexual pleasure when the other doesn’t want intercourse, and so on).